Have you ever had an enemy? People that hurt you, or even worse lie about you? Believe me, I know all to well how this works and forgiving them can be so hard, and you MUST forgive them. Before you can go to the cross and pray, you MUST love them, and that means loving the unlovable.
Who are the “unlovable” in this world? How do you qualify for this very specific group of people? Is everyone in the group unlovable to everyone else in the world, or are some of the unlovable actually lovable to the rest of us?
There is nobody beyond the reach of God. He loves all of us. In fact, even while we were covered in the mud of our own sin, God sent His Son to die on the cross for us. We needed to be forgiven and Jesus paid the price with His blood.
So, I guess ALL of us are the unlovable and it is sin that gives us the “unlovable” title. Thank goodness the love of God can look past our imperfections. Where would we be without His constant offer of forgiveness?
It is important to examine your heart and take an honest look at your own way of thinking, regarding those you have identified as “unlovable.” You will probably have to admit that there are other things you consider when sending people over the fence to the “unlovable” pasture.
Would a lack of personal hygiene be on your list? Maybe it would be education, status, or profession. Physical appearance and human deformities might be additional weights of consideration.
Why is the outside always the first trigger, or is it? Do you consider greedy, pushy, loud, and boisterous folks unlovable? Does a lack of compassion or courage sweep some people you encounter into that “unlovable” category? Could a person’s work ethic, or the lack of it, be irritating and enough to earn them a place?
Even though the children of God should view people with the eyes of Jesus, many of us don’t. We walk around with tinted or shaded eyeglasses that block out the goodness in people. Instead, we focus on the faults and wrongs of others, not their accomplishments and goodness. How did Jesus see people? Did He focus on their sin or love them in spite of it?
Judging is a very dangerous place to be when you consider we will be judged with the same measure we hand out. Jesus did not come into the world to condemn us. His purpose was always to save. Why then aren’t we following His example?
Who are the “unlovable” in your life? How have they wounded or offended you? Do they just annoy you, or do they affect you like a bad case of poison oak when you are around them? Is there unforgiveness binding you to that “unlovable” person? Is there a plank in your own eye that needs removal, so that you can see those “unlovable” folk in your life with different eyes?
You can learn to love this person, with the grace of God. I don’t mean you have to be best friends or hang out together. Instead, why not ask God to give you His eyes the next time you run into this person. You can ask God to show you what He sees when He glances their way. This will surely give you a new perspective. It could even develop compassion in your heart and a willingness to extend grace and mercy. You do not have to like the person, but you are commanded by God to love him/her.
“And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’” Matthew 22:39 NIV
“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you.” Matthew 7:1-2 (ESV)
“For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through Him.” John 3:17 (ESV)