There are 7 things the lord hates, and three of them are as follows:
A LYING TONGUE… A FALSE WITNESS THAT SPEAKETH LIES, AND HE THAT SOWETH DISCORD AMONG BRETHREN-.
THE TONGUE IS A LITTLE MEMBER, AND BOASTETH GREAT THINGS. BEHOLD, HOW GREAT A MATTER A LITTLE FIRE KINDLETH! AND THE TONGUE IS A FIRE, A WORLD OF INIQUITY: SO IS THE TONGUE AMONG OUR MEMBERS, THAT IT DEFILETH THE WHOLE BODY, AND SETTETH ON FIRE THE COURSE OF NATURE; AND IT IS SET ON FIRE OF HELL.
AND HE CRIED AND SAID, FATHER ABRAHAM, HAVE MERCY ON ME, AND SEND LAZARUS, THAT HE MAY DIP THE TIP OF HIS FINGER IN WATER, AND COOL MY TONGUE; FOR I AM TORMENTED IN THIS FLAME.
What are the reasons people gossip?
2) Bitterness, hostility, anger, resentment; thus, find someone to vent their inner feelings on
3) Low self-esteem; desire to pull others around them down to their level
4) Purposeful attempt to destroy or malign someone, motivated by jealousy
5) Influence of peers; joining the crowd for acceptance
What happens to the person that is being gossiped about?
Hurt or pain, embarrassment, damage to their character or reputation and it is also destructive and causes division. What does God say?
The one who gossips reveals the true nature of their heart. As it is written:
O GENERATION OF VIPERS, HOW CAN YE, BEING EVIL, SPEAK GOOD THINGS? FOR OUT OF THE ABUNDANCE OF THE HEART THE MOUTH SPEAKETH
What is Satin’s language? Divide + discourage + destroy + deceive
Types of Gossip:
1. Gossip can be defined as idle talk or writing about another person or situation, regardless of fact.
2. It can also be defined as talk or writing about another person or situation in order to turn another’s opinion against that person or situation.
3. Telling divine information.
Poor management of divine information has made God to stop entrusting His secrets to some of His children. Some people are so loud mouthed and lose tongued that they cannot retain whatever they are told: it must end up with someone else! When believers give away vital information to their enemies, they hinder themselves. Some people receive a revelation about someone else and they just have to tell it to somebody else.
If care is not taken, what God gave you in confidence to help your needy brother, will become a gossip weapon in the hands of the enemy to scatter his life or family. If you have no control over your tongue, the Lord cannot entrust you with His secrets.
Some careless Christians take vital information about their church to unbelievers outside. Testimonies not properly shared will drive hearers rather than draw them to Christ.
How have you managed the information already given to you? Do you gossip continually about others?
4. Tale bearing can be defined as a negative story, a false report, or gossip. It can be defined as one who spitefully informs against another.
As David, a man after God’s own heart, prayed: Ps 19:14-LET THE WORDS OF MY MOUTH, AND THE MEDITATION OF MY HEART, BE ACCEPTABLE IN THY SIGHT, O LORD, MY STRENGTH, AND MY REDEEMER (our words reflect the meditation of our heart).
Gal 5:22-25, THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT (which) IS LOVE, JOY, PEACE, LONGSUFFERING, GENTLENESS, GOODNESS, FAITH, MEEKNESS, TEMPERANCE: AGAINST SUCH THERE IS NO LAW. AND THEY THAT ARE CHRIST’S HAVE CRUCIFIED THE FLESH WITH THE AFFECTIONS AND LUSTS.
Notice that Gossip in not listed as a fruit of the Spirit!
Notice in this scripture that the bible lists whisperers and backbiters (gossipers)
1:29-31-FILLED WITH ALL UNRIGHTEOUSNESS, FORNICATION, WICKEDNESS, COVETOUSNESS, MALICIOUSNESS; FULL OF ENVY, MURDER, DEBATE, DECEIT, MALIGNITY; WHISPERERS, BACKBITERS, HATERS OF GOD, DESPITEFUL, PROUD, BOASTERS, INVENTORS OF EVIL THINGS, DISOBEDIENT TO PARENTS, WITHOUT UNDERSTANDING, COVENANT-BREAKERS, WITHOUT NATURAL AFFECTION, IMPLACABLE, UNMERCIFUL.
THAT IN THE LAST DAYS PERILOUS TIMES SHALL COME. FOR MEN SHALL BE LOVERS OF THEIR OWN SELVES, COVETOUS, BOASTERS, PROUD, BLASPHEMERS, DISOBEDIENT TO PARENTS, UNTHANKFUL, UNHOLY, WITHOUT NATURAL AFFECTION, TRUCEBREAKERS, FALSE ACCUSERS, INCONTINENT, FIERCE, DESPISERS OF THOSE THAT ARE GOOD, TRAITORS, HEADY, HIGH-MINDED, LOVERS OF PLEASURES MORE THAN LOVERS OF GOD; HAVING A FORM OF GODLINESS, BUT DENYING THE POWER THEREOF: FROM SUCH TURN AWAY (turn away from false accusers or malicious gossips).
How to repent and fix a spirit of Gossip:
1) Do not associate with a person who is a gossip.
Proverbs 20:19-HE THAT GOETH ABOUT AS A TALEBEARER REVEALETH SECRETS: THEREFORE MEDDLE NOT WITH HIM THAT FLATTERETH WITH HIS LIPS.
2) Conceal the matter; keep it to yourself.
Proverbs 11:13-A TALEBEARER REVEALETH SECRETS: BUT HE THAT IS OF A FAITHFUL SPIRIT CONCEALETH THE MATTER.
3) Let no unwholesome words proceed out of your mouth.
Eph 4:29-LET NO CORRUPT COMMUNICATION PROCEED OUT OF YOUR MOUTH, BUT THAT WHICH IS GOOD TO THE USE OF EDIFYING, THAT IT MAY MINISTER GRACE UNTO THE HEARERS.
Our words should promote healing and minister grace to build up and edify the hearers. Words such as, “I love you, I am praying for you, I will stand by you.” Consider the words of your mouth; it is wrong to use your tongue for gossip. Rather, use your mouth for good: talk with God, pray for others, and speak the Word and always be an encourager.
Don’t tell divine revelations God has given you to others. Repent and take corrective steps in all affected areas. Another revelation stopper is poor praise, worship and thanksgiving habit. If you cannot thank God enough for the few secrets He has shared with you, He may not give you more. Many of us take such secrets for granted. Start to thank Him for every piece of information He has shared with you.
Spend one hour thanking God for past secrets and revelations He has shared with you.