Praying with your spouse daily is the key to a lasting marriage!
Praying together as a couple and praying individually for your spouse is one of the most powerful weapons you have against divorce and in favor of building intimacy in your marriage.
When Jamael and I Pray together not only does it bring us closer to each other, but it deeply reinforces our relationship with the Lord. If you’re unsure where to get started praying together as a couple, here are just a few Christian prayers for spouses and married couples to help you take the first step.
Step 1 – Pray Together: Set aside time each day to pray with your spouse.
It makes sense that praying together would bring a couple together. Jesus often prayed with his disciples. And Paul wrote, “Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful“ (Colossians 4:2). Prayer is our opportunity to connect with God, our Creator. It’s practical. And it is a wonderful privilege to be able to approach Him together. Yet most couples do not pray together regularly.
Step 2 – Read Together: Set aside time each day, or at least once a week, to read the Bible together.
At the beginning of the day, or before either person leaves for work, one person asks the other for prayer requests, and then he or she prays. After the first person finishes praying, the second person asks the first one for prayer requests and then prays. After that, both could pray for family members or other people.
If one person is asleep when the other one goes to work, pray for each other’s requests the night before. If one person is away on a business trip, pray by phone.
Most of us feel tired at the end of the day. We enter the evening hours hoping for support and understanding from our spouse. Yet God wants us to look for ways to serve, not to be served. As Jesus said, “Even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve” (Mark 10:45).
Before you go to sleep, ask for God’s protection over your home and for each member of your family, your relatives and others with needs. If one person goes to bed before the other, pray when he or she goes to bed.
Step 3 – Make Decisions Together: Commit to making important decision together.
I’m not talking about deciding on what to eat for dinner. Major decisions, like financial ones, are best decided as a couple. One of the greatest areas of strain in a marriage is the sphere of finances. As a couple you should discuss your finances on a regular basis, even if one of you is better at handling the practical aspects, like paying the bills and balancing the check book. Keeping secrets about spending will drive a wedge between a couple faster than anything.
If you agree to come to mutual decisions on how the finances are handled, this will strengthen trust between you and your partner. Also, you won’t be able to keep secrets from each other if you commit to making all important family decisions together. This is one of the best ways to develop trust as a couple.
Step 4 – Attend Church Together: Get involved in a church together.
Find a place of worship where you and your spouse will not only attend together, but enjoy areas of mutual interest, such as serving in a ministry and making Christian friends together. The Bible says in Hebrews 10:24-25, that one of the best ways we can stir up love and encourage good deeds is by remaining faithful to the Body of Christ by meeting together regularly as believers.
Step 5 – Continue Dating: Set aside special, regular times to continue developing your romance.
Once married, couples often neglect the area of romance, especially after the kids come along. Continuing a dating life may take some strategic planning on your part as a couple, but it is vital to maintaining a secure and intimate marriage. Keeping the romantic love alive will also be a bold testimony to the strength of your Christian marriage.
Suggested guidelines for rewarding prayer times
Either person can suggest it is time to pray.
You could agree about who will suggest praying at the different times of the day, or you could be informal, with each taking the responsibility to say, “Let’s pray.”
Invite your spouse to pray.
Don’t be pushy.
Both husband and wife should pray out loud.
If you are shy about praying out loud, fearing you don’t pray well enough, let me encourage you not to feel embarrassed. Prayer is talking to God. (It’s also listening to him.) Speak simply. He is the most understanding and forbearing of listeners.
Choose a position that is comfortable for both.
You can pray standing, kneeling, sitting, hugging or lying in bed. The main thing is to pray!
Pray for a reasonable amount of time.
There is no need to have prayer marathons. Pray for a length of time that is comfortable for both of you.
This lesson was adapted from a lesson from Mary Fairchild.